Benny Blanco's Therapist-Approved Partner Checklist Revealed

Benny Blanco recently revealed on The Mel Robbins Podcast that he collaborated with his therapist to create a list for finding his ideal life partner. The 38-year-old songwriter and author explained that the first criteria on his list was simply being 'age-appropriate.'

He also prioritized qualities like niceness, caring, and compassion. Another key aspect was seeking someone who was generally happy or actively working on their mental well-being, whether through therapy or other self-care practices. Blanco noted that such broad, fundamental traits were more important than superficial characteristics.

Reflecting on his relationship with wife Selena Gomez, Blanco, 34, highlighted the importance of timing. The couple first met approximately 15 years ago and maintained a friendship for years before their romantic relationship began. Blanco stated that their union would not have been successful if it had occurred at a different stage in their lives.

Blanco and Gomez, who were first linked in December 2023, announced their engagement in December 2024. They officially married in California in September 2025, with both sharing joyous moments from their wedding day on social media.